Choices

http://www.nytimes.com/2005/09/20/national/20women.html?ex=1127966400&en=3f7348e314a603ee&ei=5070

This article doesn't really take a position as much as presents the situation saying, "This is how it is." I'm sort of glad it wasn't really slanted one way or the other, since I'm not quite sure how I feel about the subject.

My mother was always home for us. There was the odd day when we would let ourselves into the house but as a rule, she was home. I have a good relationship with her and I'm sure the fact that she was there when we got home from school has something to do with it. However, I can't imagine doing what the women in this article are doing. They are attending Ivy school, training to be lawyers and other such high powered jobs...then planning on leaving it all to be stay-at-home mothers. I don't know, I can't get behind this idea of working so hard and then planning to give it up by the time you're 30, when you've barely begun.

Of course, the women's movment is about having the choice to work if you want to. But the expectation on most women who want families is that you have to balance that and your families. Men don't really have that expectation except maybe the men who become stay-at-home dads, but there seem to be so few of those that the expectation doesn't exist for them...yet.

At this point in my life, I am single so I think more of finding a man than having a baby...though I know I would like to have both in the future. I don't have it planned out how things would work when I have a baby. I think it would depend on how my career was going and whether my husband and I could afford to have one of us stay home.