http://msn.match.com/msn/article.aspx?articleid=3973&TrackingID=516311&BannerID=544657&menuid=6
Seriously. Why not start with the obvious: When a date is made, don't cancel it. We are in the age of IM, JDate and Match.com but meeting people online is never as personal as meeting them face-to-face. However, it becomes difficult when the person with whom you are speaking with online lays it thick with compliments one moment, then won't really ask you out the next. Say he does, then you set up a time to meet...but he calls to cancel. Then doesn't call to reschedule.
The problem is that people you have met online actually haven't met you, despite the connection that could possibly be forged over IM. So if you haven't met that person, then how could you be compelled to even keep a date? If you cancel, you're really not losing anything becuase you never knew that person to begin with.
The aforementioned article is ridiculous for several reasons...The first being why direct this at the guy? These would be things for both people to think about. Most women would not dress down for a first date, but still. They could be just as guilty of hiding behind their menu as the man. And why not add something that is usually a question when you first start dating: Who pays?
I'm one to believe that in theory, both should add to the bill. It is, however, a nice gesture if the guy wants to pay. I will always offer, but it seems like good manners if the guy picks it up...not for every date, just the first.
Also, don't say you want to get together again and then not do it. That will erase any chance you might have had. That article would have been much more effective if it included anything of substance instead of fluff.
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This is from my friends Erin:
But on that last one about the dating article. Here's what I think...
#1 - no guy is going to read that or any article like it because they don't think about those things like we do
#2 - I don't care about a lot of that stuff because I just want to have a nice time with someone...if he looks presentable and we click, I couldn't care less about whether he holds the door or pays or protects me from traffic by walking next to the damn curb!
#3 - I hate this whole online dating thing. I know people have success with it, and I'm very happy for them, but here's the thing....most guys will lie right to your face without even thinking about it, online guys have all the time they need to come up with lies. I just don't trust it.
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